If anyone accepts my proposal, you can post your comment/message.

My mind is busy right now, thinking of what is life ahead of me. I don't know if I was getting pressured again of being a single or was it the weather today (well, it freakin' cold here).

Frankly to say, I'm thinking of this idea almost everyday. I'm thinking of getting married? But girl, the question is who, where and how? In the true sense of the word, I'm really, definitely, accurately, physically, mentally, heartily SINGLE.

How frustrating, right?

But based on my sisters, sis-in law and friends' experience, I'd rather stay single. On the other hand, I want to get married (at least, by name) so that my family, my friends, my boss and my colleagues won't gonna ask me, when am I going to get married.

Sometimes, I really want to post on my friendster and multiply that I need a husband for the sake of having it not for the sake of love. Know what, I am preparing all my conditions and agreement if ever there is a chance that there is a guy who would accept my proposal to be my husband. Check this out.

1. First of all, no physical contact. Coz I still do believe that only loving couples could only that. And, we are just husband and wife only in front of people not of God.

2. Definitely, we will not share the same bed. Both party can live on different house, if anyone of them wants it, but if there is a need to stay and live in the same house, both party should do the needful.

3. We will not interfere in each other's life. But, if anyone of the party needs a helping hand, the party who is in need should accept it. What are husband and wife's for!

4. If there is a need that both parties needs their presence in a occasions like family gathering, holidays, friends gathering, both party should spend time like this.

5. Romantic relationship with the third party should do discreetly and should not be within the circle of friends.

6. If both party needs to share the same house. Responsibilities in the house should be taken care of by both parties.

a. Both parties should share equal house expenses.
b. Both parties should do equal household chores.
c. Both parties should not interfere each other personal things/life.
d. Opinion/views/ideas of both parties should be respected no matter odd it is.

7. This contract will be valid only on a specific time agreed by both parties.

8. If there is a need to add/revise/amend this contract, the additional provision, revision, amendment should agreed by both parties.

9. This contract will not be revealed/exposed to the third parties/family/friends.

Well, if anyone reads this and agreed to this terms and condition, and/or accepts my proposal, you can leave your comment/message. I'm deadly serious.

Late Bloomers in Love, You're probably better off! (Well, I'd like to defend myself)

by S.K. Smith

Source: California Psychics

Are you beating yourself up for being the last single hold out among your friends? Afraid you'll never meet the right person, that something is wrong with you or that you're simply destined never to find love? Well, stop. If you're among love's late bloomers - for whatever reason - it's time for a reality check.

There are several explanations for why love has been long coming (hint: not one of them includes you not being worthy). Here are a few explanations (and upsides) for you to consider.

The worker bee

One of the most common realities that the settle down early paradigm fails to recognize is that careers take a lot of time - and effort - to build. So if you're among the work-focused forces of nature who inadvertently neglected to pay enough attention to love, don't kick yourself, be grateful. Odds are, you've achieved at least some of your professional goals and are on your way to achieving the rest of them. There's only so much one person can do at a time and you've done a lot! So much so that love would have likely gotten in your way.

However, now that you're looking for love (and at the very least, getting settled professionally), you may want to shift your focus and add a new dimension to your hard working life. Take that can-do spirit that's helped you to succeed at work, and focus it on finding love! No doubt, with a little work, some patience and the willingness to give something new a go, you'll be on the road to romance in no time. And if ever you doubt it, just look back at all you've achieved for confidence.

Victim of young love

Let's face it. When it comes to love, the first cut is often the deepest. In fact, many of love's late bloomers report having suffered a heartbreak at an early age that they never got over completely. This doesn't make you damaged, it doesn't mean your long ago love was "the one," nor does it indicate that you're destined for continued romantic failure.

Instead of continuing to fixate on the past, it's time to move yourself and your love life into the present. You may have to start by facing your fears (intimacy, opening up again). And, you will definitely need to do an honest assessment of your scars as well as how they affect your behavior with potential partners. In addition, if your relationship was abusive, you'd be wise to seek counsel. However, if you're willing to put your past behind you and create the future that you want to have, success in love is attainable. And the best part is, you'll be seeing what you enter into through clearer, more mature, less vulnerable eyes. Having weathered the first storm, you're better armed for whatever's to come.

The soul searcher

Just as common as workaholics and victims of early heartbreak are those of us whose main mission has been not to find a soulmate, but to focus on ourselves. And this, while it may not feel like it at this particular point, is the absolute healthiest approach to finding love. No other human being can complete you, they can only compliment you. So, why not give them the best you possible to compliment? Had you met someone before you felt solid in yourself, they might have met your energy at that time, but who wants that now… now that you've blossomed into you!

If you're a soul searcher who has focused on getting to know yourself and your place in the world, do not, for one second think you've made a mistake… or that it's too late. Quite the contrary. When you're ready, love will come your way. It may just require a tiny shift of intention. When you're ready, begin to focus on meeting your match… and never settle for less. It may take you longer than the average person (those who take the time to work on themselves require someone who has done the same), but the end result will definitely be worth it!

Reality check

While for some outdated reason, society dictates that we should all want to pair off and settle down as soon as possible, the earlier a relationship is entered into, the less chance it has of succeeding - check out the lower divorce rates for couples who meet in their late 30's and 40's. Successful relationships require two active partners who contribute equally and grow together. That's not to say it's impossible for people who marry in their early 20's to be happy - very often, they can be. But mature adults who have lived life a little and seen it past their 30th, 35th or even 40th birthdays, have a lot more experience and wherewithal to bring to their relationships. They know what they want and why… and more often than not, if they're open to it, they get it.

WELCOME 2009!!!

Moments from my last day of 2008 and First day of 2009.

1. I really had a nice chat with my boss. He asked me if I've found a boyfriend this year, when I said that I still haven't. He was surprised coz he finds me a nice person. Based on what he sees in me, I would take the relationship seriously. That is why, he was surprised that I couldn't find one. Perhaps, that is the reason why I couldn't find one. Men don't want a serious relationship and getting involved in a serious relationship w/ me is a pathetic thing. (too bad!)

By the way, I asked my boss if we have a salary increase this year. The best ever response that he gave is…. IT WILL COME!

2. before the day is through, there is a strange thing happened. My so-called crush asked me if I'm married. Gosh, so he believed with what my colleague's told him that I have 3 kids! Well, of course, I laughed and answered him, "Do I look like I'm married?" And there's one more thing, reading between the lines, he wanted me to invite him for dinner. He can eat Filipino food coz' he used to live in Thailand and he loves Thai food. But me and my clumsy mouth, I told him that I don't know how to cook and the scar on my left wrist is the proof. How's that? I'm really honest, don't ya think? I should have been impressed him and told him that I'm expert in doing that kind of stuff!

Another thing that really surprised me was that before I went to church, he approached me again and make a short chat with me. Whatta, a nice last day of 2008! Not a bad thing, before the day is through, a nice (?) and cute (no doubt) guy approached me! San ka pa?

3. We had a nice and wonderful dinner at our compound with my housemates. I prepared macaroni soup and they really appreciated it, huh! We ate a lot of Filipino foods, drank red wine and beer (hik!) till morning. And I really like the couple living next to my room. They're amazing couple; they really make me laugh by their moves and sweet but weird acts.

4. I had a beautiful dream. Know what? I dreamt of my cutest Atom. In my dreams…. He held my hand so tight and kissed me, in front of Patty. Oh that hurts. I really don't want to be maldita but that's how it goes. But Patty really didn't mind, that that gave me a question mark. Atom told me before he left that he would call me about this thing. Nevertheless, it is still a beautiful dream this new year. Even in my dreams, I've experienced how it was to be with Atom, how held my hand and kissed me. That's a WONDERFUL FEELING!!!

Now, I will be able to start this year with colorful feelings. I can face this year with full of HOPES, COURAGE and LOVE . You can do it, too.

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!
WELCOME 2009!!!